Your Song

 

Domestic abuse is like playing the same old horrible song again and again on an eternal loop , just when you start to think it's stopped,  it starts all over again. 

    it doesn't matter whatever what song it may be it because it won't stop re-playing untill the decision is made to unplug where ever that encredibly annoying sound is coming from . In my case I think I not only switched it off but I must of hit it with a sledge hammer for good measure too .

  There's many other brilliant ways to have music in your life and domestic abuse most certainly isn't one of them , how can I describe what kind of sound domestic abuse is ?....

   

  Think of finger nails being dragged down a blackboard but even louder , it will only ever stop when the person doing it feels like stopping and not before , it's all about the control .  Domestic abusers can't do anything quietly and there's always a form of punishment behind it if things don't go their way .

  When to stop your play list of domestic abuse is entirely up to you , it's your own personal music so only you can put a stop to it , how to stop it is again a very individual thing but when it is finally ended then its time to change the music to whatever you want it to be and you get to play it at what ever volume you want it to be . Where my music was once like a really old large vinyl record with big deep scratches on it and a tendency to jump , it's now a phenomenal greatest hits album full of my all time favourites .

  In case it's not been.noticed yet in this post I have always appreciated music in all its many variouse forms and there where times in my all too grey and gloomy past that it was one of the only things that helped keep me reasonably of sound , mind and body. One of my small never noticed rebellious acts was to sit down with my basic thing- a- bit -like -an- ipod and put my earphones in when football was on the television , I would open whatever good book it was that I was reading at the time and them pretend to switch off . The one all important factor in all of this was the fact that I never actually switched my music on , if he thought I couldn't hear him then there was no point in talking or moaning about something in my direction and I would get some peace and quite till the game ended . 

   My choice in music is various and never a day goes by when there's not some of it playing at some point somewhere , I now get to play it loud and proud instead of keeping it to myself . I now have complete control over my music thats played and the same goes for my life . Changing my music opened up whole brand new adventures and now I'm free to dance or even sing along whenever I want to ( granted not always in time but its still great fun doing it ).

  Can anyone change their music?....

   Yes absolutly they can , in actual fact anyone can and whenever they want to .

  

Now the big question is are you ready to improve things in your life ?.. because in order to make those changes you need to really want to and believe it can be done . A bit scary to begin with yes maybe but all that seems scary can only get better and easier as time goes by untill one day you realise there was nothing to be scared of after all . 

   No way am I a mentally strong all powerful superhero human but what I am is a domestic abuse survivor and if I can do it then do can anyone else , all it took was that one magic moment when I decided to change the music playing in the back ground .

  Now let's have a bit of fun......Here's my list of music that could very very loosely related to the subject of domestic abuse ( obviously none of which should be taken seriously but you'll see what I'm trying to do as you read it ) .

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  Highway to Hell = AC/DC

  

 I knew you were trouble = Taylor Swift

  

 It wasn't me = Shaggy

 Help = The Beatles

 War = Edwin Starr

 Please release me = Engelbert Humperdinck

I will Survive = Gloria Gaynor

Freedom = George Michael

Keep on running = Spencer Davis Group

Your song = Elton John

Its my life = Bon Jovi

      

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 Granted their all a bit obscure with the connection but you can see where I was trying to go with it . There is one ultimate finale song and one of my all time favourites to add to my list and that's by Mr Frank Sinatra's and its My Way  ( or Sid vicouse's version for those with punk tendencies like myself ) , it sums up exactly how I now feel about things nowadays , no one will ever get the privilege of thinking they can control me because I am the only person who has the right to do that ,  I will of course make mistakes along the way but I learn from each and every one of them as I go along and it will all of course be done  my way  🎼  .

  So what ever your music choices are and what ever the lyrics mean to you never forget if you don't like what's being played you can always fast forward the song . It's your unique individual very special personal playlist so you get to pick all the tracks , be they heavy rock , country and western or seriously sloopy/ romantic it's all your choice and you can get to sing along or dance because they belong to you and no one else .

Remember....... Never be made to dance to someone else's music !!

  Whilst writing this post today there has of course been my normal cup of tea and my music playing in the background giving me the inspiration for today's subject .