Thursday, April 11, 2024

Perfect imperfection


   According to all the domestic abusers in this world everyone else is utterly and completely useless , pathetic , and hopeless , worthless or stupid ( and all the other words they pile together at any given opportunity) . 

   As I've mentioned before I was regularly told by my now very much ex abuser that I was " Fat , usless and ugly " which does make you very much wonder as to why the hell was he with me in the first place or stayed for 28yrs if I was that bad ? 🤔
  Just like the bad one in a box of apples it always has to try to turn everything else surrounding it mouldy too .

   I'm the very first to admit I'm not perfect in any form or fashion but one thing I do admit to very proudly is the fact that I always try my very best to be true to myself . All my imperfections are my own ( and yes I know I have a few ) , I know I can be encredibly stubborn , sarcastic and a bit slow on the uptake sometimes plus a few more bad habits but to me at least its those imperfections that make me the person who I am today .
   I don't think anyone is perfect ( apart from Miss Mary Poppins obviously ) and those that domestically abuse others will will always have to inform their victims of as many as they can find and even some that never really existed in the first place but they are the only major imperfection to exist in anyone's life .

   I've always believed that you should try to turn every negative into some sort of a positive and that's exactly what I try to do , if it's raining I try to see rainbows , if it's cold I try to think warm thoughts and if the day isn't going that great then I think my tomorrow will be better . As my profile says I'm an annoying eternal optimist whose glass is always full to the brim ( never forget glasses can always be refilled ) .
  My honesty does have a bit of a habit of dropping me in it sometimes and I know my trust has been dented along the way but over all I know I'm most certainly nothing like I was once so kindly informed I was like .

    It's the domestic abusers that have all the imperfections and issues in life , they are the one's with the problem which then in turn becomes someone else's problem because they have to share it all around to whoever they happen to be with at the time , they have to make others feel bad about themselves in order for them to feel good. 
  Never believe a negative word that comes out of an abusers mouth because trust me you are not and never will be whatever it is that they say you may be .

   Domestic abusers will blame everyone else for their own actions because nothing is ever their fault , they will have an overflowing bucket full of excuses for their actions and if caught out lying they will then become deeply offended that they weren't believed or they will put on the act of being a good decent person untill they think know one is watching anymore and then it all starts again. 
   How many times have I heard of abusers playing the victim card?......

     All the time because in their minds they are the victims and I've heard some amazing phenomenal excuses . 
 There's one case that I know of where over the years the abuser has claimed to have bipolar depression , anxiety , P.T.S.D and mental heath issues all due to believe it or not . ....domestic abuse !!!!   ( yet they where the violent , emotional and mental abuser in the first place ) .
   If they can make excuses like the one above then in my mind ( and it is only my own personal opinion) that it means that they know its all wrong in the first place .

   Would I want to make all my imperfections perfect ?.....
   No , I genuinely don't think I do because then I wouldn't be me . I now know for sure that I'm nothing like I was once told I was and that if anything I'm now more stronger and confident than I've ever been . 

   Imperfections are a perfectly normal human/animal thing or behavour and everyone shouldn't try to change just because someone else says that you should ( domestic abusers not included here ) , it's those random individual little things in life that makes everyone unique and special. Never try to be like the person that someone else wants you to be because you will never be perfect in their eyes and they constantly find fault in you . I'm not entirely sure if those that abuse know exactly what it is that they want their perfect person to be like because when or if it did happen they would only want it all changed again into something else .
  Maybe just excepting imperfections exactly they way they are is the better way to go in life , instead of trying to change them or reshape them to fit we should all just be grateful for what we all have .

   So today is my totally imperfect perfect day where all thats going to happen will happen with all its perfect imperfections , I intend to fully enjoy every single minute of it ( after my morning first cup of tea of course ) and appricate the fact that every thing I now do perfect or not is entirely my own choice and no one else's ,  I'm now a free independent person whose imperfections are their own and all mistakes made are all mine too .

  Why not make today your own and no one else's. 

   As the marvellous Mary Poppins would say ..... " I'm practically perfect in every way " 😊
( or practically imperfect and proud of it in my case  )






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