Now this is when the fun and excape to freedom really begins ........
The ex finally packed all his things after a month or so along with a few other things I later discovered that didn't actually belong to him and he left thinking in his own sweet twisted warpped little mind that being that I was " fat , useless and ugly " I wouldn't possibly stand a chance of doing anything on my own , let alone surviving but I of course knew much much better.
Because the ex was trying to be what he thought was really clever at the time he had cancelled the home phone line ( discovered that little supprise when I tried to make a call one day ) but I would just simply borrow the phone at the shop I volunteered at to sort everything out when I needed to and I had a few very raw honest conversations to various people to get the help I needed to start again all on my own .
I honestly completly surprised myself that I had not only gained my freedom , had gotten the engagement ring promptly sold for for scrap ( asked the children first but they didn't want it either ) but I had also arranged getting help with the rent , sorted out an energy supplier and arranged all the other things needed to live in the house all by myself and I had actually got myself a mobile phone contract !!
I did go through a brief spell of going to look for something I thought I needed only to discover it had obviously moved house without me but I learnt over time to see it all as " just stuff " and stuff can always be replaced .
I even got to have my first highly succeful Girls night out in years !!!!!! 🤣
If your reading all of this and thinking to yourself I couldn't possibly do it then your wrong , all you have to do is be honest and ask for help , there are some amazing people and various groups out there to help and support domestic abuse victims they will guide you at your own pace and catch you when you fall .
Just because your not physically hit by someone it doesn't mean it doesn't count as abuse , emotional abuse is just as bad . Male or female its all still ⁰ abuse . It's not an impossible thing to escape from as I discovered , it isn't always an easy decision to make but personally I feel its one one of the greatest decisions you can ever make in your life .
If the flowers in the garden can bloom regardless of the weather then so can you and you are free to travel your life's journey whatever way you decide.