Believe it .

 

O K , I'll admit it.... I enjoy all the J.K Rowling Harry Potter stuff but it also sets a good example about over coming the bad things in life.....

  Harry had things a bit tough from the very first book but he just kept on going and in each and every following book he grew stronger and stronger . Yes , he may just be a fictional character in a book/film but if you look into it there's a few similarities to domestic abuse. 

   Those dreaded nasty Dementors that try to suck all the joy out of someone are the equivalent of a domestic abuser , both have no sign of much of an inner soul, and both on a mission to make everyone miserable is a great example so why not check it out and you'll see what I mean .

   Everyone who reads these posts should all have worked out by now I am by very good fortune and grace a very natural positive kind of person and I try extremely hard to always look on the bright side of things , how can I do that after suffering all my what felt like endless years of abuse I hear you ask ?....

   That's one of the very few questions I'm constantly asking that I can answer , I flatly refuse to let what may of happened to me rule my life . My now ex abuser no longer rules my very existence anymore so why should he rule my new found freedom . 

   

 I will not allow myself to wallow in any form of self pity or drown in yesterday's memories ( I will never forget what happen but I dont have to relive it everyday  ) and I most deffinatly won't tolerate any forms of bulling or abuse to others if I see it happening anywhere now .

    It's been several years now since I made my decision to leap to my freedom and it's most deffinatly not only one of the best decisions I've ever made but also one I shall never regret making , I now speak about it everyone and anyone who wants to listern and yes absolutly I most certainly would stand up in front of a crowd of total strangers and talk about it if asked .  I am not and never will be ashamed or embarrassed about my past and now veiw it all as a major serious lesson in life .

  What started as a bit of a selfish thing at the start in writting my story of domestic abuse  down somewhere , it's now grown in its own strength. It's given me therapy and counselling without the expense and oh boy ! the boost of confidence it's given is better than any tablet the doctor could prescribe . I truly hope that those that read any or all of my posts gain at least a small something from them .

 

   If you have unfortunatly found yourself entrapped in your own version of abuse and feel that you just dont know what to do or which direction to turn to then never forget it all needs to start with you , only you can make that first all important decision and its only you that can start that snowball rolling . After that first call or Email things get a lot easier and regardless of what you may of been told yes you are important and yes you do matter .

    I remember my  first call and the nerves that went with it , I had spent so long believing what I was once told that I was usless that it came as quite a shock to discover I actually wasn't and that the family and friends I thought had given up on me hadn't and as soon as they heard about my escape they soon all started reappearing again much to my delight .

   I know I've said similar things before or even repeated myself ( I do that a lot I know ) but untill my dying day I will never stop doing it because that's how important it all is to me , domestic abuse in all its foul forms will never stop in my life time but at least maybe I'll  make a little bit of a dent in it somewhere along the line to weaken it . Those that domestically abuse don't need anyones sympathy , help  or understanding because as adults they should know already that the sort of actions they make towards others is not the right way someone should behave ( they should have grown out of the terrible two's by now don't you think 🤔 ) .

  The Survivors of domestic abuse discover that they can grow far more stronger and greater than their abusers , they have the power to complety ruin all the plans and schemes made by them  and then they can just walk ( or run ) away with their heads held high , those that abuse never get to have or use that sort of power and that's all due to them never admitting to their own mistakes or except they were wrong .That almighty great power is called self belief and once you get that then you can become almost indestructible . 

    Today be proud of yourself , it doesn't matter if you're still bound up within the ropes of abuse , a survivor like myself , a sympathetic and understanding reader or even just a found by chance person everyone should think of at least one thing today that makes them proud of themselfs . Believing in yourself and everything you do is a great way to deal with life and I'm a firm believer that if you believe in something hard enough then maybe one day it will happen .  

                        

  ⭐️  I wish I may , I wish I might , I wish upon a star tonight ....... May Domestic abuse eventually cease to exist  ⭐️