Abuse questions .

 

Domestic Abuse comes with a hundred questions attached so let's try to answer just a few .............

What are just some of the many differant types of Domestic abuse ?....

Physical abuse

Sexual abuse

Emotional abuse

Financial abuse

Narcissistic abuse

Coercive abuse

Gaslighting abuse

 

There's many other types but these are just the first ones that sprung to my mind . 

All of the above are horrendous and just plain soul destroying .  

 No-one has the right to do any of the above to someone else who they are supposed to care about .

All can of course be escaped from when the time is right .

          Chances of recovery = 100%

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What are some of the warning signs of a domestic abusive person ?...... 

Jealousy 

Possessiveness 

Controlling behavour

Impossible expectations

Isolating another person

Passing on the blame to others

Being hypersensitive 

Speedy involvement

Again there are many more to add but all have their own major red flags 🚩🚩

 If you spot any of these in someone then my suggestion is to avoid them at all costs before it overtakes your life .

All as a rule it starts without you even realising what's happening , by the time you do work out that something isn't quite right your already being smothered by it .

          Chances of recovery =100%

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What are the worst things you can say to an abuser ?......

No 

Stop playing the victim 

Your not listening 

Your being a bully 

It's your fault not mine 

Life is'nt just all about you

I've had enough I'm leaving

All can be said if your feeling brave enough but there will be consequences attached for daring to do so . Always look out for any consequence for your actions .

Escaping from the situation can be done .

       Chances of recovery =100%

      

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What are some of the signs of emotional abuse ?.......

Putting you down in front of others

Trying to humiliate you in front of others

Trying to embarrass you in front of others.

Using eveything and anything to make you feel bad about yourself.

Having negative opinions about everything you do or say . 

I know all to well about the above and even more was thrown in my direction on a regular basis . 

In a very bazaar way its like making you feel small makes them feel bigger .

         Chances of recovery = 100%

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What can trigger Domestic abuse ?......

When the abuser can't get their own way .

When they feel their self image is under threat .

When they feel they are being criticised. 

When they feel they are being neglected.
When they sense it that someone else can pick up on their bad behavour.

When they are asked to apologise for something they have done .

This is yet another one of those lists that could just go on and on and on . Abusers hate being made to feel inadequate so will go out of their way to make sure they are the most important person in anyone life and they dont really seem to care how they get there .

            Chances of recovery = 100%

As you can proberly tell by now the whole subject about domestic abuse is full of endless questions that don't really have decent enough answers ( some questions can never be answered ) ,  but all can have a 100% chance of a full recovery once you've broken away from it .

The biggest question is.......

   

why do abusers do what they do ?....

 

and this is one of those things that will unfortunately never have a good enough answer . 

Why would anyone feel the need to dish out form's of emotional and/or physical abuse to someone their meant to love and care for ?...

Is it just that they haven't yet grown out of their toddler terrible two phase and now like getting their own way in life a little too much.

Or maybe their brains are just completly wired up differently to everyone else's and in their minds it's the rest of us that are just crazy dreamers and not them at all .

   There is and never will be a good enough excuse or reason for anyone to treat someone else to any form of domestic abuse !!!! 

 Abusers will never apologise for their own actions ( some might but it's never truly meant ) and they will never take full responsibility for them either . 

Abusers in their own mind are never wrong so therefore they can't see what their doing is wrong . They seem to think in their mind that everything that is done is perfectly acceptable behavour so whats the problem .

Personally no I don't think I'll ever find all the answers to the endless questions but it won't stop me from reaching out to try to help others .

 If anyone needs any moral support after first breaking away from domestic abuse then you will be able to find my Blog email in my profile  as you can tell I may not have all the answers but at least I can be there just like a friend .  Any communication will of course be kept totally confidential .

Please feel free to express your options , more questions or even maybe answers but try to remember before you do that some of those answers are really only nothing more but excuses for an abusers bad behavour and that when you try to answer any you may discover there's more questions than answered. 

  If you look I have always put a chance of recovery = 100% after each major question and that's because absolutly big time it can be done , OK yes it may take a while and your brain can get seriously muddled at times but if I can move on after my 28yr domestic abusive imprisonment then honestly yes anyone can ,  there is only one person stopping you at the end of the day and that's you !!