Everyone knows of the twelve days of Christmas but this is my domestic abuser version .........
On the first day of Christmas, my true love gave to me.....A filthy look thrown at me .
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On the second day of Christmas my true love gave to me...... 2 Sarcastic Comments and a filthy look thrown at me.
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On the third day of Christmas, my true love gave to me...... 3 spiteful words
2 sarcastic comments
and a filthy look thrown at me .
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On the fourth day of Christmas, my true love gave to me...... 4 temper tantrums
3 spiteful words
2 sarcastic comments
and a filthy look thrown at me.
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On the fifth day of Christmas, my true love gave to me......5 sleepless nights
4 temper tantrums
3 spiteful words
2 sarcastic comments
and a filthy look thrown at me.
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On the sixth day of Christmas, my true love gave to me ......6 painful bruises
5 sleepness nights
4 temper tantrums
3 spiteful words
2 sarcastic comments
and a filthy look thrown at me.
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On the seventh day of Christmas, my true love gave to me......7 separate blackeyes
6 painful bruises
5 sleepless nights
4 temper tantrums
3 spiteful words
2 sarcastic comments
and a filthy look thrown at me.
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On the eighth day of Christmas, my true love gave to me......8 depression days
7 separate blackeyes
6 painful bruises
5 sleepless nights
4 temper tantrums
3 spiteful words
2 sarcastic comments
and a filthy look thrown at me.
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On the ninth day of Christmas, my true love gave to me......9 not seeing family days
8 depression days
7 separate blackeyes
6 painful bruises
5 sleepless nights
4 temper tantrums
3 spiteful words
2 sarcastic comments
and a filthy look thrown at me.
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On the tenth day of Christmas, my true love gave me.......10 helpful phone calls
9 not seeing family days
8 depression days
7 separate blackeyes
6 painful bruises
5 sleepless nights
4 temper tantrums
3 spiteful words
2 sarcastic comments
and a filthy look thrown at me.
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On the eleventh day of Christmas, my true love gave to me......11 days of secret planning
10 helpful phonecalls
9 not seeing family days
8 depression days
7 separate blackeyes
6 painful bruises
5 sleepless nights
4 temper tantrums
3 spiteful words
2 sarcastic comments
and a filthy look thrown at me.
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On the twelfth day of Christmas, my true love gave to me......12 days of blissful freedom
11 days of secret planning
10 helpful phonecalls
9 not seeing family days
8 depression days
7 separate blackeyes
6 painful bruises
5 sleepless nights
4 temper tantrums
3 spiteful words
2 sarcastic comments
and a filthy look thrown at me.
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The above shows just how quickly domestic abuse can creep up and then escalate when you least expect it , it also proves that all it takes is a few phone calls and a load of trust to break away from it .
Christmas time can be a dark place for those on a domestically abusive relationship , there's not a lot of joy to the world or Silent nights but there is a mass of uncalled for and unneeded physical or emotional abuse attached . Instead of a time of year where wonderful memories can be made there can be nothing but fear , abusers seem to like ruining everyone elses fun and for some strange and unknown reason, and they can't seem to cope watching others enjoying themselves. I've never really worked out why they have to do what they do but having had to deal with more than my fair share of miserable Christmases I can fully sympathise with those that still have to put up with it all .
If your one of those still ploughing your way through a bad abusive relationship why not make it your new years resolution to leave that life behind and start again ? It may not be simplistic or easy at times but I can garrentee life will become a brighter, better place if you give it a chance .
There's some amazing groups out there who will listern and never judge you they can guide you at your own pace without rushing you . Never be afraid to ask for help , it's that first step that's the most scary part and then after that it can get easier as time goes by .
I remember that first morning after I had informed my now ex I wasn't going to put up with his appalling behavour anymore and that he was told to go before the police got informed of his actions , granted it didn't go down that well at the time but I refused to back down like I always used to . I woke up that morning feeling like I had lost the dark unforgiving cloud that had been following me around for years , my smile had returned and most importantly that feeling of regaining my sanity and freedom felt outstanding !!!!! I knew there was a lot to sort out and that a certain person wasn't ever going to go quietly but now my head was becoming clearer and the fog had been lifted I knew there was no stopping me and in fact I even supprised myself with how I wasn't as stupid as I was lead to believe I once was .
Freedom from domestic abuse isn't something that you can tell someone else to do because they have to be ready to do it in their own time without being pushed to take that jump . It can take a couple of weeks or like in my case years but when that person wakes up like I did then be ready to be that much needed and trusted friend .
As I've mentioned endlessly on almost every post I can be found on Facebook , Instagram , Quora, Threads and X . If your not ready to trust or talk to someone but just need to scream , shout or swear then just find my Blog email in my profile ( all communication 100% confidential) .
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